Avoid Postponing Your Wedding

Avoid postponing your wedding:

Hindsight is a wonderful thing. But, in most circumstances it is possible to avoid the postponement of your wedding.

How do I do this?

(1) Thoroughness of preparation:

- ensure you have double checked all the documentation required for your wedding. Ask a second person to check your documentation. Make an appointment ahead of your wedding with the marriage celebrant to ensure he/she is satisfied with your documentation.
- if you are a divorcee, ensure you have your decree absolute and decree nisi. Check to see whether or not you require an annulment from your church. Check whether or not your church will recognize divorcees. Then follow the steps above.
- ensure you receive written confirmation from all the wedding vendors/merchants you are dealing with. Be involved in the process.
- make time to meet and/or visit vendors to go through your exact needs/requirements. Vendors will remember a face. They will be more likely to pick up upon any mistakes such as double bookings.
- follow up appointments in writing with what has been agreed, heading your letter with the day and date of your wedding
- a lot of errors occur due to computer input mistakes, particularly if a wedding is being scheduled for the following year, or two years ahead. Many computers are not able to handle such advance bookings! It is up to you to keep in touch with your vendors. Keep them on their toes. Genuinely enquire how the arrangements are going for your wedding.

(2) Avoid postponing your wedding with honesty and truthfulness:

- be honest and true! It is no good hoping something will “go away”. If you know you have a court hearing which has the possibility of leading to your incarceration then you have a duty to tell your partner.
- if you know that “Aunt Sally” is very ill and may die, discuss and agree in advance how you would deal with a clash of commitments
- if there is a “political” situation brewing, be honest with your partner, or these “political” situations could lead to your divorce!
- avoid a “marriage of convenience” at all costs. Only in Hollywood films do such marriages work out. It is illegal to marry just to gain access or residency to a country.

(3) “If there is any just cause……:

The bride and groom should be aware if there is any just cause why they should not be married. You will not be able to avoid postponing your wedding if:

- one partner is already married
- one partner is a fraud and using an alias or stolen someone else’s identity
- one partner has not been truthful
- there are religious barriers
- there are irreconcilable cultural differences

Never ever assume that you will not get caught out. Do not put yourself, your partner, or your guests, in such an embarrassing situation.

Having followed all of the above, I hope you will be able to avoid the postponement of your wedding.

Avoid postponing your wedding